I started doing this thing lately. I find some of the most ridiculously stupid and outlandish quotes said by celebrities and pair them with an "expressive" selfie. At first, I was doing it purely because I thought it was funny and saw it as satire of those who post selfies with quotes like "she may be bent, but she's not broken". I know, I'm a dick sometimes. Anywho, I got two or three in when I realized that my initial intent was getting lost in translation. I think a few people took the time to read the quotes and saw some humor in it but I think most people didn't care, just thought "Hey. That's a nice pic" or maybe something else completely. I'm not a mind reader.
I posted this one yesterday with a terrible Kanye West quote but after checking it a few times to see how many people liked it and who (everyone does this and it's ok if you do too) I thought to myself "Well fuck. This is not playing out like I imagined it would" and I got a little embarrassed. The picture was overtly sexual (for me personally) and to be honest, it made me uncomfortable. Once I realized that this particular post wasn't being seen in all it's glorious context and possibly being misinterpreted, I did not feel good about myself. But I left it up for now. Because who fucking knows.
I've posted selfies before, like a lot, so I'm not going to sit here and pretend it wasn't for attention, it was. What other reason is there for someone to post a selfie of themselves? Hell, getting attention is the foundation of social media. Literally the whole concept of it. I have thoughts, opinions, ideas, etc and I want them to be recognized by a group of my peers. That is what social media is, that's what blogging is, there is nothing altruistic about any of it. Believe me when I say, I'm not trying to offend anyone or make anyone feel less than. IT'S FINE! EVERYBODY DOES IT. DO YOU. FUCK THE HATERS. That includes me. I can be a hater sometimes.
It wasn't until I responded to my friend Joe's comment that I really began to see past the entire 'I think this is funny in a really bitchy and judgemental way' (I know, this was mean and condescending of me). But seriously, think about it. This is the norm now. Maybe it's because everyone is so enthralled with their phones that in order to get attention, social media is an easy way to get it. Maybe it's just me but I really don't interact with that many people and it's usually the same people everyday. I'm old news to them, they already know me. Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, these are all new platforms with new audiences and you have complete control over the content and how you want to be portrayed. You can be the best version of yourself. You get to negate or at least downplay all those flaws and imperfections you believe you have. Well if you want to, I'm a hot mess that portrays themselves as such. I like to forewarn people so if they start to bitch, I can point out that if they didn't pick up on this disaster that it me looking through my posts, it's their own fault.
Anyways, being acknowledged by people gives us a warm, fuzzy feeling inside. It makes us feel good, like we are noticeable, worthy of attention, it gives us that confidence boost that some of us desperately need at times. Once again, this isn't a bad thing. It's normal to want to be noticed, it is normal to want people to see us. It's fucking normal, ok?
Can I be completely honest? In a "what came first, the chicken or the egg" scenario, an M. Night Shama-long-a-ding twist if you will, I had two motives with this post. I don't know what percentage is this and what percentage was that but here they are: The juxtaposition of a scandalous picture paired with a stupid fucking quote amuses me. It will never not be hilarious to me. It would have been 1000% better if I was a dude but I'm not. Secondly, as I have admitted in past posts, I am jealous. I am jealous when I see other women posting selfies and getting a ton of likes. It's fucking stupid. Thanks to my past but recent experiences in life, I feel a sense of inferiority to these other ladies. Which is dumb because I literally just said that shit about creating a best version of yourself for display, blah, blah, blah. These people are real but they aren't "real", they are selected pictures, they are carefully thought out posts, so why the fuck am I jealous? Well obviously I have terribly low self esteem and I've allowed toxic people into my life who have amplified that feeling. My bad...
Jesus this is a long post. IN CONCLUSION, people do things. They do things for a reason and only they know why. Or maybe they don't know why. My whole point is, do what you need to do to get through the day. Don't feel bad for wanting extra attention. Don't feel bad for expressing yourself however the fuck you want to express yourself. Don't hold back just because cynical assholes like me sometimes feel really shitty about themselves and pass judgement.
I'm sorry I'm a twat. :(
P.S. It's still funny to me.
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